women's attire

OK, props to Kandace S. again...she is a dear friend (perhaps one of my dearest) from high school, and the reason we get along so very well is because we think a lot alike.  It scares most people, including her ex-husband and my significant other, but we don't mind.  We think it's fun...

Anyway, we e-mail each other a lot, so much in fact it seems like instant messaging instead.

Today, we got on the subject on women's attire and what men like.  Keep in mind that both of us (and probably many other readers of this) are plus-sized, beautiful women and were thin once back in the day so we know the gamut of what can/cannot be worn.  We are also children of the 80's, which signifies big hair, tight straight-leg jeans, and neon.  With all those qualifications, she and I feel that we are pretty experienced and can comment knowledgably on stuff like this. 

First, let's discuss the concept of stiletto heels.  From my days in Italian class, "stiletto" is Italian for a certain type of knife, and yes, that's what they feel like when they're on.  Why men would want us to wear these shoes is beyond me.  First of all, they're ultimately bad for your feet, causing a woman to balance all her weight on one part of the foot as opposed to all the foot.  Yes, I know Barbie wears high heels, but she's also plastic, weighs less than 2 lbs and has "made in Taiwan" tattooed on her ass.  Do not bring that example before me because it's totally invalid.  The point I'm trying to make here is that wearing stilettos is on a par with foot-binding, and how many women actually wear them all day long besides the chicks on "Sex and the City", who are actresses and are able to put up their feet and/or make emergency trips to the podiatrist every day?  I think I've made my point, so let's move on.

Now, how about pieces of clothing that have integral parts missing?  I.E., crotchless panties, bras with the nipple areas cut out, belly shirts, micro minis, and the whole lot?  I wore some halfway revealing things in my time, but nothing compared to this stuff.  It's like nobody has any imagination anymore - "Please don't cover that up because we can't visualize it unless we actually see it..."  It's the element of mystery that I would think is sexy...that's what I like, anyway.  Whether you're straight, gay, bi, dodecasexual, you would think it would be the same...what fun is it to undress someone in your head if they're already halfway there?  That's like your mom handing you a halfway unwrapped Christmas present to save you the trouble. 

Finally (because I'm running out of time, but I WILL continue this), what's up with this "madonna/whore" complex that still runs rampant in this enlightened age?  I mean, don't mix the genres.  If a woman is to look professional to turn you on, don't mix it with fishnet hose, stilettos, and something crotchless/nipple-less/otherwise not complete.  I can't control what turns someone on, I realize, but come on, people!  How many investment bankers do YOU know that wear a micro-mini and red fishnets?  It's not practical, and highly frowned upon with the FDIC, I'm sure it is.

I'm sure I opened up a whole can of worms, but that's what this is all about, right?  Comments are welcome, but no death threats, please.  I've been through enough in my 35 years, it wouldn't be fun to threaten me...unless you do so with fishnet stockings and stiletto heels.

Sudiegirl